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Interfaith Relationships
06-27-2013, 11:15 PM
Post: #1
Interfaith Relationships
Hello all!

I've been away for a few days contemplating things. However, one can only think things through so many times prior to the point where you talk yourself out of and back into something. Even though I'm fairly new here, I wanted to bring up a question.

Interfaith relationships. What are your opinions on them? Would you be seriously involved with someone who did not have the same beliefs you did? If so, are there any limits to how far you think you can stretch?

My current SO and I are very different people. I like to make the joke that we run on Apple and Linux respectively. Most of the time, this is not a problem. However, as we get more serious, I wonder how well an interfaith relationship can work, if both really hold our beliefs to be true and what effects might happen to any hypothetical larvae in the future.

Opinions? Advice? [As I sit here, wondering how long I can keep myself religiously unlabeled in this thread. Haha]
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06-28-2013, 12:48 AM
Post: #2
RE: Interfaith Relationships
Of course there are probably some things you share if not religious attitudes..

I think as long as you have mutual respect and share some important values it can work.

In time as you become more deeply involved there maybe more you will share..

"All religions, arts, and sciences are branches of the same tree."
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06-28-2013, 12:59 AM
Post: #3
RE: Interfaith Relationships
(06-27-2013 11:15 PM)Niva Wrote:  Hello all!

I've been away for a few days contemplating things. However, one can only think things through so many times prior to the point where you talk yourself out of and back into something. Even though I'm fairly new here, I wanted to bring up a question.

Interfaith relationships. What are your opinions on them? Would you be seriously involved with someone who did not have the same beliefs you did? If so, are there any limits to how far you think you can stretch?

My current SO and I are very different people. I like to make the joke that we run on Apple and Linux respectively. Most of the time, this is not a problem. However, as we get more serious, I wonder how well an interfaith relationship can work, if both really hold our beliefs to be true and what effects might happen to any hypothetical larvae in the future.

Opinions? Advice? [As I sit here, wondering how long I can keep myself religiously unlabeled in this thread. Haha]

I am currently single do to how shy I am, also I am so Pious I am afraid of comprising myself if you know what I mean.

In my case she would have to be Open Minded, a Theist, have a strong Morale code, be accepting of other beliefs such as mine, be trust worthy and willing to commit to just me, she would have to be intelligent, kind, willing to debate in a friendly manner, and willing to admit when she is wrong. She need not be of my exact belief system so long as she meets all of the above and I would only date a friend whom I have come to know in the first place and only with the intention of a Long Lasting relationship. She also would have to be a virgin like me. She doesn't have to have red hair and green eyes but if she does then she is perfect. And she can't be too darn thin, I hate skeletons I like a little chub on them bones. Oh and she can't obsess about others opinions of her.

Lol

Oh
OH and she has to.................................etc, etc, etc, etc, etc, till Infinity....!

Praise

"Hidden underneath the stoned cold surface of every Pious Person lays buried a Kinky Pervert, Stop bringing shovels, Where not digging!"-Azrael
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06-28-2013, 01:06 AM
Post: #4
RE: Interfaith Relationships
Quote:Of course there are probably some things you share if not religious attitudes..

Some things, but they seem small. Like we both appreciate the arts, enjoy literature and consider family very important. There's a lot of contrast thought. Light cynic v. optimist, encouraged by criticism v. positive reinforcement, Type A v. Type B, etc.

Quote: I am so Pious I am afraid of comprising myself if you know what I mean.

I don't want to assume, as I have not had a chance to read more than a handful of your posts. Could you be more specific?
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06-28-2013, 01:28 AM
Post: #5
RE: Interfaith Relationships
(06-28-2013 01:06 AM)Niva Wrote:  
Quote:Of course there are probably some things you share if not religious attitudes..

Some things, but they seem small. Like we both appreciate the arts, enjoy literature and consider family very important. There's a lot of contrast thought. Light cynic v. optimist, encouraged by criticism v. positive reinforcement, Type A v. Type B, etc.

Quote: I am so Pious I am afraid of comprising myself if you know what I mean.

I don't want to assume, as I have not had a chance to read more than a handful of your posts. Could you be more specific?

I don't believe in sex before forming a long lasting bond, I don't believe in dating until I have become friends.
I believe that sex before forming the bonds of love is a sin and I do not want to give into lust during a moment of weakness so I therefor will only date women that I am already friends with and I take my relationships very slow which has drove my last two girlfriends away as they wanted sex and I did not so they broke up with me. Each woman I have ever dated has approached me,
I actually never confessed to a woman before that is just how shy I have always been but I think if I found some one I truly feel in love with I would overcome that shyness,..........hopefully...I think....

Did I mention I like women with green eyes and red hair? LoL

To be truthful I haven't actively been searching for a soul-mate and I don't have that many female friends. Actually my closest friends consists of three people who I hang out with regularly, I don't really socialize in large groups it makes me feel very nervous.

Being shy sucks, wish I could wake up one day and be an loudmouth extrovert with adhd for just one day.

"Hidden underneath the stoned cold surface of every Pious Person lays buried a Kinky Pervert, Stop bringing shovels, Where not digging!"-Azrael
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06-28-2013, 01:34 AM
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RE: Interfaith Relationships
Quote:Did I mention I like women with green eyes and red hair?

I miss out on the eyes bit. Haha.

Quote:Being shy sucks, wish I could wake up one day and be an loudmouth extrovert with adhd for just one day.

It's not all it's cracked up to be, trust me. I often end up brassing people off without intending too.

Quote:To be truthful I haven't actively been searching for a soul-mate and I don't have that many female friends. Actually my closest friends consists of three people who I hang out with regularly, I don't really socialize in large groups it makes me feel very nervous.

I don't think large groups are important, but I do think meeting new people and forming new connections can be a very important and even spiritual experience. Simply because of the possibility and potential. Like throwing a rock into a pond, you never know what might happen.

But then I randomly buy tea and hand it out to a random person I pass, just to hope it impacts them positively.
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06-28-2013, 01:50 AM
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RE: Interfaith Relationships
That's what bugs me the most about how shy I am, I feel awkward in social situations and have problems meeting new people. I don't really engage in any activities that would allow me to meet different people.

I do not attend church regularly,
do not go to bars, do not usually deviate from my three person bubble. It's like a phobia as well as shyness.

"Hidden underneath the stoned cold surface of every Pious Person lays buried a Kinky Pervert, Stop bringing shovels, Where not digging!"-Azrael
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06-28-2013, 01:57 AM
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RE: Interfaith Relationships
Quote:That's what bugs me the most about how shy I am, I feel awkward in social situations and have problems meeting new people. I don't really engage in any activities that would allow me to meet different people.

Can I give you an internet hug?

Quote:I do not attend church regularly,
do not go to bars, do not usually deviate from my three person bubble. It's like a phobia as well as shyness.

Maybe you could do something similar to what I do? Like stop by a petrol station and give someone five quid toward their petrol, or buying a tea or coffee for someone behind you in line?

Or say hello to the shop girl and give her a compliment. Brief encounters, that have meaning but don't involve "socialising?"
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06-28-2013, 02:05 AM (This post was last modified: 06-28-2013 02:07 AM by shiverleaf15.)
Post: #9
RE: Interfaith Relationships
(06-28-2013 01:50 AM)Azrael17 Wrote:  That's what bugs me the most about how shy I am, I feel awkward in social situations and have problems meeting new people. I don't really engage in any activities that would allow me to meet different people.

I do not attend church regularly,
do not go to bars, do not usually deviate from my three person bubble. It's like a phobia as well as shyness.

I'm just like that too...

Dude we have so much in common.

I have realized I actually rejoice a little inside when I have time to be on my own and manage to escape an invitation to be among people I barely know too well and share little interests with me. I don't hate people: the word "anti-social" is kind of a slur when used for people who are not extroverts. I love people: I just feel many people are too superficial, and too judgmental, and reserve myself from them aside from smiles and normal conversation unless I feel they have something in common with me.

Back in New York I made good friends by listening. And people trusted me, and then I would speak more about me, and know they cared if they were really good friends.

I've been living in Utah a whole year now, almost, and have not made a "best friend" since I got here: it's been rough, but I have yet to find someone just like me here. I want to have friends who are real friends and not just social buddies, you know. I watched a video once about introverts and how special we really are. We're not exactly "shy" because of fear or antisocial intentions. It's just...we want people to pay attention to us fully, even as we pay attention to others fully. Modern society is largely different though: people just want to have a good time with as many people as possible. I'm not made for that...

Which takes me to the topic of the thread. Like Azrael I would love to find a girl who was in love with spirituality, with learning, with abstract thinking and creativity, and who was meek and humble, and also kind and loving in the agape sense.

Those are traits I want to have: it's my own ideal for a human being, whether for myself or anyone else. Maybe that's why my hope is to find someone like that to marry in the future.

Inter-religious relationships are fine, but I think the dogmaticism of one or the two members of the couple, supposing religious differences exist, could strain the relationship and pose troubles over how children will be raised.
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06-28-2013, 02:08 AM
Post: #10
RE: Interfaith Relationships
Okay, I am electing myself forum hugger. If anyone ever needs an internet hug, I will give hugs.

Praise

It says praise...but it looks like a hug.
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